Publish for self

Social networking sites gave everyone an opportunity to publish their thoughts, likes and life events. Though we got so excited about a dream becoming a reality, one need to really understand that there is a fine line between the idea of 'publishing for self' and 'publishing for everyone'.

Blogging or participation in an online discussion forum is mostly 'publishing for everyone'. Pages/ channels on social networking websites are meant for 'publishing for everyone.' But your wall/ timeline/ feed takes an all new meaning and outlook when you use it as the dynamic shareable journal that receives feedbacks ocassionally.

In other words, share info/ update/ present contents to keep a record of what you liked, agreed upon during that period of life. Don't just ruin it trying to make it look like billboard that got maximum attention. Don't let it become a endless listing that has nothing relevant to you. 

If you end up being concerned about how many views, likes, comments, redistribution occur to each update you make, then you end up being a product and your social network presence is just like a juicy advertisement. So make a new entry, if you would have written the same on a journal page every now and then. 

Privacy: you don't need an exact detail about where was a picture taken, who were you with and when was it taken - all the time with every photo you share. Keep the entire album with countless number of photos on your computer, storage device or at online storage space. Social networking sites are not meant for safe keeping. Only upload some pictures to represent an album you keep.

Just a sentence or two about what you realized or understood is enough. You are gonna remember about the time, place and group without just putting it up all online. If someone really asked, then you may consider to give out the details. No one cares about all the details, except a stocker. They are out there - acquaintances, strangers and businesses. 

In short, let you wall/ timeline have contents that briefly express your opinions and thoughts; an index of life events and quick reference to your privately stored media albums. This is not the only way, but it still looks great. Isn't it?

Everyone needs to leave home for sometime

I got my first chance to live few years all by myself, away from home, during my undergraduate education. I feel sympathy to people who spend all those years of college life being a day scholar (day pupil). Being away from home allows you to live the life the way you wanted than spending it the way others let you to or choose for you. You are likely to find people who could make you realize that you had everything you wanted but nothing you really needed. They could make the BIG change in your life. Besides, it gives the opportunity to understand yourself much better.  Education is not just about doing some dedicated works, attending classes and evaluations. It is also about exploring and grooming your own talents for survival.

Lucky me, I got my fair share. I hope any undergraduate student/ school kid or anyone with a next of kin younger kid, reading this note, would consider the idea of letting them to stay at campus (atleast) during their undergraduate program. Dear parents, besides your undivided attention, care, shelter and tasty food, your kids needs much more - including few chances to face failures and learn themselves to survive and earn respect. Your kids do not get all of these experiences if they were always with you.

Two Tales.

Recently I had a chat with one of my friend, which got extended to few hours of discussions, arguments and some simple conclusions. The topics also included about how one start to feel about what to do and what not to do when we proceed towards the end of the ongoing academic course. In between, I did recollect about the ' Two Tales'  which were told to our class on the first day of this 4 year undergraduate course. When I shared it with him, he told that if he ever had heard this before, he would have tried few times to answer the questions it asked and would have had a richer life experience and outlook. At least now he seems to have felt enlightened. So I thought about sharing it with others. Here it goes:

Stay Focused

    It is about a flashlight, which did not have  the bulb mounted in a reflector. Since the bulb protruded out with no surrounding cover, it did illuminate the entire region close to it with a faint light. But once someone did put a mirror reflector around the bulb. Now the light was available only to a smaller region, but it was bright. Many things which were not visible earlier started to became visible.
   
note: Everyone has the desire to be good at everything, but can't be best in everything. When you have many choices, take it with a pinch of salt. If you feel any of your choices to be incoherent with what you are looking forward to, feel free to drop it and go with the rest. " Be good at something, that makes you valuable" - Randy Pausch.

The Real Goal

    You went to a new place, where only few spoke your language. You asked the directions from many, got help from many and continued the  journey. There were some rough terrain to travel, few sleep less nights, many anxious moments, many acquaintances, few friends, many opportunities to know more about you, develop yourself, help some strangers, take some risk and finally you reached a region with few shops and craftsmen. You spend some cash to buy some cloth and then went to a seamster. You managed to adjust with him, while he tried to take the necessary measurements and he is going to make you the finest dress, which was the main reason why you wanted to start this expedition. All you need to do now is to spend some more time, focused on the main goal, patiently giving your opinions and efforts, while the dressmaker crafts the dress in a way that is best suiting to you. At the same time, you came to notice that there will be a carnival in the town, which happens very rarely. But it will be the time for you to return back from this "new place" when the boisterous celebration ends. Either you can stay some more time with the tailor and get what you came for or forget about the main reason why you are here and pick up some rugs, one-size fits-all type and attend the much hyped merrymaking.
   
   
    The professor continued: " Ask yourself these question, once in a while, not to feel disappointed or frustrated about what you have lost, but to understand that there is still hope and all you need to do in the remaining time, though very less, is to stay focused and try to embrace your real goals."

Every thing "ordinary" must have a humble beginning

Blog is a buzz word in the present world..Did u read that blog? how awesome is his blog? real life quotes like this started flooding into my live chats when i put my first step in the present..so google about the phenomena was my first choice..'Blogs in plain english' in 'youtube' did very well to feed my apetite.


"Why." said the Dodo, "the best way to explain it is to do it" - Lewis Carroll, Alice's Adventures in Wonderland

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